This is an issue which is pretty close to my heart. Rape is an problem that haunts women across the globe. It is an act of gender violence, a crime, violation and quite frankly, not enough is being done to stop it.
Last week a Bengali woman, by the order of her village council, was
gang raped for falling in love with a man from outside her village and not being able to pay the fine for doing so. This, after a series of violent sex crimes against women plagued India.
South Africa's record isn't any better. Two weeks ago, a 9 year old girl was raped and then set alight. She was found alive by members of her community and was able to identify the man who later appeared in court. The community was outraged, and rightly so. With a justice system that is clearly failing the safety of South African women, do you blame communities for wanting to engage in mob justice?
I think one of the things that annoys me is the reaction towards rape. It's similar with most cases: A woman is raped, there's a huge uproar and then it fizzles out. No one thinks about the post-traumatic stress that she or her family has to endure. It happens all the time. Clearly angry outbursts are not causing any change, because the rape statistics are getting worse. A woman is more likely to be raped than learn to read in South Africa.
Another thing that bothers me is the justice system and how so many rapists get away with their actions because there is not enough proof. Then, as in the case of the 16 year old Indian girl, they further harass and even murder their victim. It is because of such things that women are less likely to report rape.
Last year, I'd written an essay about rape, summing up a few ideas that leaders in our country can implement in order to overcome and prevent rape in the future. It was written for a "Future Leaders" type of competition, so please excuse the register:
“Don’t
keep your daughters indoors; teach your sons how to behave”
According to current statistics, South
Africa is currently ranked second in the world as the country with the highest
number of rapes and is soon to take over the number one spot from the United
States of America. Statistics also show that a woman is more likely to be raped
than educated in South Africa. Women play an essential role in the economic and
social growth in this country and such circumstances is poison to our future
growth and gender equality. This disease can only be prevented if we get to the
core of the issue. Increasing physical measures can only assist to a certain
degree in reducing the number of rapes, but that kind of security does not
cover rapes that occur inside homes, committed by once trusted people. The core
of the issue lies in the attitude of humanity towards such behaviour.
It is often a misconception that rape is
driven only by certain basic desires of a human being; however, the act of rape
is stemmed from a psychological need for power. Rapists exercise their power
over the victim by going against their will. This is precisely the attitude
that needs to change. More often than not, the perpetrator has experienced a
certain lack of power in another aspect of their life – be it in the work or
domestic environment. At times incidences from ones childhood, abuse being a
key example, may only affect a person later on in life. All these are linked to
the psyche, and the clear, yet often undermined solution, lies here. Social
workers and counsellors are the most underrated and undermined professionals in
this country, generally earning less than teachers. Their training lies in
assisting a person to come to terms with their situations or past situations.
Once a person has come to terms with their experiences in a logical but
understanding manner, they are able to move on from it and not allow such
negativity to affect their futures. Hence, it is clear that counselling and
social work is an effective antidote to the psychological poison created in the
minds of people. What we, as future leaders, can do is to ensure that the money
we intend for Corporate Social Welfare is injected into the right projects.
Rural schools cannot afford a school counsellor and there are children who are
in need of counselling. By paying the salary of a social worker of a rural
school, we take a step in preventing the future of this country from being
consumed by negative psychological desires.
Another attitude that needs to change is
the one of little understanding and a lack of compassion by citizens. Rape has become
so rife in our country, that when we hear about new cases we rarely show the
indignation or anger it needs. Sometimes we even turn our heads the other way.
In extreme cases of gang-rape, the uproar against it last for a few hours,
maybe a few days and then we all get back to our everyday schedules and the
victim is left psychologically vulnerable and without hope and the initial
uproar loses effect. We, as citizens, tend to act on the ‘that which doesn’t
affect us, does not concern us’. This is
another attitude that needs to change. The only way to change this attitude is
to come to the understanding that if we do not commit to fighting rape in this
country, then its growth will be detrimental to our future generations. We
underrate our power as citizens. Our government is chosen by us; hence we have
the ability to put pressure on them in terms of our current legislation
relating to rape. Punishment for rape is far too lenient, leading to the recent
rapid increase of this crime in our country. By putting due pressure on
politicians to intensify the punishment for rape, the lawmakers in our country
will be obliged to change policies.
Rape can lead to the spread of AIDS and
unwanted pregnancies, not to mention the psychological trauma experienced by
victims. These issues all need to be addressed in a compassionate manner to
show support to rape victims and to strengthen the fight. Education plays an
essential role in creating awareness. Apart from the adverts and pamphlets, organisations
that are committed to the fight should be assisted in going to areas where rape
is rife and educate citizens on what to do in vulnerable situations, where to
get tested for HIV and where to obtain the ‘morning after’ pill to prevent an
unwanted pregnancy. Included in such education should be the numbers of local
police stations, helpline numbers and local social work groups to assist
victims when they have no support. This
is not meant to encourage rape in any way, but instead to ensure that citizens
are so well-informed that they may be able to get out of a compromising
situation or help someone they know.
One of the manners in which techno-savvy
rapists work is that they use fake profiles and cyber-stalking to attract
victims, gain their trust and, after securing a meeting with said victim, rape
them. This problem can be easily resolved, again, through education. It is
difficult to stay away from the internet in a technologically advanced era, but
we all need to exercise maturity and caution. Children and teenagers are the
most vulnerable in this regard; hence parents need to gain sufficient
techno-knowledge to be able to exercise parental control. By preventing loved
ones from meeting strangers they met on the internet, this will aid the reduction
of rape-statistics in South Africa.
The attitude of men plays a significant
part in the reduction of this poison. A prime example of this is an
organisation in South Africa called Brothers
for Life. The organisation is aimed at changing the attitude of men with
regard to their treatment of women, the fight against AIDS and rape, in order
to breed positivity and hope in our society. They do this through creating
awareness, encouraging and providing means to get tested for AIDS, educating
people on the dangers of gender violence and acknowledging those who have
played an active role in their fight against societal poisons. Organisations
with such or similar objectives can inevitably be successful in changing and
shaping the attitudes towards rape in our country.
Many South African citizens have lost hope
in our government, our fight against societal poisons (like rape) and our
future as a whole. This is, inevitably, the attitude that needs to change and
is achievable through education, correct professional care and assistance,
compassion and caution. Positive thoughts breed positive actions. If we can
show citizens that there are ways to fight rape, the fight against the poison
becomes stronger. The quote,
“Don’t
keep your daughters indoors; teach your sons how to behave” (Unknown)
is
quite relevant in summing up how to go about finding the antidote to the poison
– the fight against rape will only be successful if we start by adopting the
correct attitude.